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So I have completed reading ‘Emotionally healthy spirituality.’
I liked the angle Peter Scazzero took to wrote this book. He wrote about how we cannot be spiritually mature when emotionally we never matured. In the whole reductionist and simplistic summary of this book, you can do all the Christian activities and claim that you are doing it for God but your emotional immaturity will show and it will backfire some of the Christian things that you do.
Guess what? In this whole book, he never talked about forgiveness but talked about how we have to deal with the trauma we went through and even talking about the generational sins. We have to deal with that in order to mature emotionally.
Don’t get me wrong, forgiveness is important. In fact if you are a Christian, God asks us to forgive those who have hurt us. Forgiveness is the way moving forward. But there is something about forgiveness which Christians don’t often address is the trauma the other person goes through. To avoid the uncomfortable feelings, we all just give the generic “We have to forgive because we are Christians” and ignore that pain the other person went through. For the sake of looking good and being a good testimony, we hush all the emotions away. In one of my earlier posts my friend did asked me about reconciliation and it caught me thinking because that is a raw and honest question. We all push for forgiveness without considering about healing or even acknowledging the trauma or even grieving the things that we have lost.
Anyway, I am just talking briefly about the book here. If I feel like it, I might write another post about this book.