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I decided to write this post just a way express let it out. I wish I could help her in my way but the whole situation is less ideal and more complex.
Also, she like to play the hierarchy games so if I were to tell her that she is in depression, it will be hushed away. It doesn’t help that my younger sister in-law will defend her wrongly. While it is alright to defend your mother, but depression and dementia is a real thing.
After all, I am younger than her and have less experience than her and whatever I said will come from a person who is younger. She has been in denial too and it doesn’t help that my father in-law is too uneducated to understand that she is under depression. All he does it just to scold her.
But yes, due to my experience, I know how to see if someone has depression, and I won’t outright tell you because:
- I am not a psychologist
- I could be wrong
- I don’t want to be held responsible if my observation gets you into trouble instead of helping you. Refer to point 1.
If I have my way, I would have not approach my mother in-law in the daughter in-law mode and will encourage her to get help. And that means I will have to bring her for help instead of telling her that “go and find help because a depressed person will not do that at all.”
But anyway, maybe it is not for me to help, because I don’t think I can go through another round of emotional abuse from her. Also, talking to her means I have to be ready to fight.
Oh well.